Bryan Falchuk: The Ratio of Relationship (Episode 213)

<p>Today’s guest returns to the show to talk about his new book, <i>The 50 75 100 Solution</i>. Bryan Falchuk shares ideas to create better relationships in his new book, and how his writing process has changed over the course of his two books. This is a great episode for anyone who is looking to better a relationship or understand the journey that many authors experience.</p><p> </p><p>Key Takeaways:</p><p>[4:30] - Bryan returns to the show to talk about what has changed since he was last on the show with the release of his first book. Bryan talks about the changes in his professional life, and the inflection points that have helped him navigate these changes.</p><p>[7:03] - Bryan’s new book, <i>The 50 75 100 Solution</i> is all about focusing on how we engage with other people, and started with his relationship with his wife. </p><p>[9:10] - Bryan talks about how and why he went about writing this new book. It stemmed from shifting his view of his relationship with his wife from what she was doing wrong to how they could both affect different behaviors from each other by presenting different versions of themselves. </p><p>[14:04] - When he started applying the ideas from <i>Open Heart, Clear Mind</i> in his own life and with others, his book started to present itself and at that point, he had no choice but to write it. This was different than his first book because he was writing from the middle of the situation, rather than something he had had inside him for a long time.</p><p>[18:45] - It is normal for an author’s first book to just flow, and then for them to struggle to start a second book. You often need more time to research and gain new life experiences. Charlie talks about the difference between explanatory and exploratory writing.</p><p>[22:55] - The idea of the book is all about proportions or percentage of a relationship. Most people start out at 50/50 which is more “us vs them,” or each person showing up for themselves. 100 is when you’re each trying to make the other 100% better. </p><p>[25:22] - 7