8 Damaging Roles Narcissistic Parents Assign to Their Children

<p><strong>You had no choice in the role a narcissistic parent created for you and assigned to you.</strong> <strong>You were stuck with it--while usually being quite unaware of it. It's just the way your family is, like it or not, right? </strong></p><br><p>NOW, in this episode, see your assigned role(s) so you can shed them and choose again!&nbsp;</p><br><p>In episode #201 on pseudomutuality, I talked about how #Hijackals like to paint a public picture of perfection on their families, which creating a private place of pain at home, within the family. Hijackals don't like the assigned roles I talk about in this episode to show in any way. It becomes a big family secret to them. In fact, they will deny that these roles exist:</p><br><p><em>"I love all of my wonderful children equally." </em></p><br><p>Now, we know that's not true. In fact, sometimes, it's a question of if they love any of them...or, anyone except themselves. (That's a topic for another time, though.)</p><br><p>In the episode, I mentioned these two definitions from Webster's dictionary. I'm including them here because some people think that scapegoats and black sheep are the same. There is an important distinction:</p><br><p>BLACK SHEEP: "a person who causes shame or embarrassment because of deviation from the accepted standards of their group."</p><br><p>SCAPEGOAT" "a person made to bear the blame for others or to suffer in their place."</p><br><p>Quite a difference when you're bearing the brunt of the role, particularly!</p><br><p><strong>HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:</strong></p><ul><li>How pseudomutuality creates a false front, masking the assigned roles a narcissistic parent gave you</li><li>8 different roles you may have observed or experienced within your family</li><li>Why narcissistic, Hijackal parents assign these roles</li><li>How the "ruler of the household" assigns the labels</li><li>Why everyone in the household goes along with them</li><li>How your assigned roles may still be affecting your self-esteem and adult relationships</li>