Your Daughter's Belief That She's Not Good Enough is Literally Killing Her

<p>Many girls have a belief that they are not good enough, and it’s literally killing them. Here’s what parents can do about it.</p> <p><strong><u>Show Notes</u></strong>:</p> <p>In this podcast Dr. Jordan describes many causes of why girls develop a belief that they are not good enough and the costs of having that belief.</p> <p><strong><u>Parents</u></strong>: Some ways that parents contribute to girls developing a not good enough belief arehaving an autocratic parenting style with criticism, yelling, and punishments; comparing them to siblings unfavorably, being distracted and not around to spend time with them, valuing achievement over character, and modeling this belief with what they say about themselves and how they act.</p> <p><strong><u>Coaches</u></strong>: coaches who are intense and yell a lot and are focused on winning at all costs can cause girls to internalize the message they aren’t enough.</p> <p><strong><u>Peers</u></strong>: Girls often compare themselves to friends and peers unfavorably, and they also do a lot of body and fat shaming with huge effects on each other’s beliefs.</p> <p><strong><u>Spiral of beliefs</u></strong>: Past negative experiences often causes girls to decide they aren’t good enough and for those thoughts to develop into belief systems. This includes friend issues, school performance, and family issues.</p> <p><strong>Advertising:</strong> Dr. Jordan describes how advertisers are selling girls the idea that they themselves are not enough or good enough; that they need this product to have cool friends, be popular, and to be enough.</p> <p><strong><u>Images</u></strong>: Girls who compare themselves to images on social media will end up thinking they are ugly, fat, and not good enough.</p> <p><strong><u>What can parents do to support their girls</u></strong><strong>?</strong></p> <p>Be conscious of what you are saying, modeling, parenting style, not compare them to sibs, value character vs achievement; spend a lot of 1-on-1 time with them</p> <p><strong>Friends:</strong> Be