What To Do When Reflecting Feelings "Doesn't Work" (Advanced Reflecting Feelings Tips)

<div data-pm-slice="1 1 []" data-en-clipboard="true">Listener Stephanie emailed me with a follow-up question to my episode titled: <a href= "https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/i-hate-my-life-what-to-do-when-your-child-says-this-or-other-shocking-things/"> "'I Hate My Life!' – What To Do When Your Child Says This, Or Other Shocking Things"</a> and described a few situations where her 7-year-old son reacts with shocking responses, but the reflecting feelings process didn't work as expected. In this episode, I give Stephanie some follow-up advice on using the reflecting feelings skill with some advanced tips to help when it feels like reflecting feelings isn't working.</div> <div> </div> <ul> <li> <div>The depth of the feeling impacts the recovery. The larger the emotion, the more time it may take for feeling reflection to take effect. It's not an instant fix.</div> </li> <li> <div>Enlarge the meaning</div> </li> <li> <div>You always reflect on the new feeling that was most recently expressed</div> </li> <li> <div>Bonus tip: Provide alternatives (later)</div> </li> </ul> <div> </div> <div>Follow me on Twitter: <a href= "https://twitter.com/thekidcounselor" rev= "en_rl_none">@thekidcounselor</a></div> <div>Podcast HQ: <a href="https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/" rev="en_rl_none">https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/</a></div> <div>My Newsletter Signup: <a href= "https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/newsletter/" rev= "en_rl_none">https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/newsletter/</a></div> <div>My Podcast Partner, Gabb Wireless: <a href= "https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/gabb/" rev= "en_rl_none">https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/gabb/</a></div>