The Secrets to Raising Teen Girls with Colleen O'Grady

<h2>Raising teen girls can have its challenges, but if you know these secrets, you'll not only survive but be able to have a healthy relationship with your daughter.</h2> <p>The secrets to raising teen girls are centered around communication.</p> <p> </p> <h3>Staying calm amidst the drama</h3> <p>Timing is everything. If your daughter is stressed, hungry, intoxicated, angry, or emotionally flooded, it is not the right time to have a conversation. Likewise, if you are in any of these states, it is not a good idea to have a conversation with your teen daughter. Give space instead of addressing things immediately.</p> <h5><strong>The contain the situation and talk later rule for raising teen girls</strong></h5> <p>Daughters are hard-wired for drama and are hard-wired to make mistakes. It is not personal when she acts out. It is a normal part of development. Therefore, it is important not to feel like a failure. Giving yourself time to calm yourself down is helpful for having a healthy relationship.</p> <p>Like with everything in life, it is important not to compare your daughter with other girls. Let them be who they are and discover themselves. Likewise, choose the battles versus focusing on the things that don’t really matter.</p> <h5><strong>Perfectionism and raising teen girls</strong></h5> <p>As moms, we feel the need to be the perfect mom, and that our daughters need to be the perfect daughter. If we are feeling this way, we are going to make our daughters feel that we don’t care about them, we only care about perfection.</p> <p>Drama kills the relationship. Therefore, it is important to dial down the drama to build a connection.</p> <p>Don’t let the drama control the connection with your daughter. Be intentional about connection by dialing down the drama.</p> <p>If there is drama all the time, you will miss out on great moments with your daughter.</p> <h5><strong>Instead of being a monitor when raising teen girls, build in focused time to be present</strong></h5> <p>Get up, give me your phone, and go to bed,