Shame with Margaret Light [E103] - Diagnosing the Aftermarket A to Z

<p><strong>Shame vs. Guilt</strong>: Margaret Light explains the difference between these two often confused emotions. Guilt is about feeling bad for doing something wrong, while shame is about feeling like a bad person. Guilt can motivate change, but shame can lead to negative self-critical thoughts and harm relationships.</p><p>Show Notes</p><ul><li>The difference between shame and guilt (00:01:30)&nbsp;</li><li>Personal experience with shame (00:03:28)</li><li>Challenging negative beliefs (00:06:22)&nbsp;</li><li>Shame and Guilt (00:08:18)&nbsp;Discussion on the difference between shame and guilt, and how shame affects individuals in their day-to-day lives.</li><li>Childhood Experiences of Shame (00:09:23)&nbsp;</li><li>Sharing and Naming Shame (00:12:15)&nbsp;</li><li>Recognizing and Understanding Shame (00:15:34)</li><li>Dealing with Shame and Self-Compassion (00:18:38)&nbsp;</li><li>Leaning into Shame and Seeking External Validation (00:21:31)&nbsp;</li><li>The impact of shame on individuals (00:25:55)&nbsp;</li><li>Creating a shame-filled environment (00:26:16)</li><li>The connection between self-talk and how we treat others (00:27:30)&nbsp;</li><li>Shame and Substance Use (00:31:00)&nbsp;</li><li>The Shame Spiral (00:32:22)&nbsp;</li><li>Window of Tolerance and Coping Strategies (00:34:19)&nbsp;</li><li>Regulating Your System (00:38:45)&nbsp;</li><li>Regulating Others (00:40:55)</li><li>Guilt vs. Shame (00:44:27)&nbsp;</li><li>Recognizing and not internalizing feedback (00:48:14)</li><li>Healthy guilt vs shame in a professional setting (00:51:07)&nbsp;</li><li>The importance of relationships with clients (00:53:57)&nbsp;</li><li>The fascination with understanding human behavior (00:55:00)</li></ul><br/><p>Thanks to our Partner, NAPA Autotech <a href="https://bit.ly/3ZLInXf" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">napaautotech.com </a></p><p>Email Matt: <a href="mailto:mattfanslowpodcast@gmail.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">mattfanslowpodcast@gmail.com</a></p><p>Diagnosing the Aftermarke