Mixed Messages That Continue to Haunt girls

<p>Girls today continue to be haunted and confused by mixed messages absorbed from the culture, leading to excessive stress, pressure, anxiety, and depression.</p> <p><strong><u>Show Notes</u></strong><strong>:</strong></p> <p><strong>Dr. Jordan describes Dr. Stephan Hinshaw’s concept of the triple bind:</strong></p> <ul> <li><strong><u>Be good at Traditional girl stuff:</u></strong> pretty, thin, sexy, nice, obedient, helpful, relationship skills, empathy, bonding, nurturing; “good girls” who put other’s needs 1^st, not have strong sexual feelings and control ones that arise</li> <li><strong><u>Be good at traditional boy stuff:</u></strong> straight A’s, super athlete, scholarship to top college, super assertive, aggressive, competitive, ambitious, driven, win-at-all-cost attitude, “hook up” vs. relationships</li> <li><strong><u>Conform to a Narrow, Unrealistic Set of Standards:</u></strong> look pretty, hot, thin, sexy; perfect wife and mother with perfect children, climb to the top of your career ladder making a ton of $, maintain all your relationships with spouse, kids, friends, both sets of parents, relatives, & neighbors; even women who break new ground must fit the standards of looking hot, succeed brilliantly & look effortless</li> </ul> <p>Girls are also absorbing some unhealthy messages from the culture about the need to be a “good girl”.</p> <ul> <li><strong><u>Good girl conditioning</u>:</strong> be perfect, nice, pretty, selfless, follow the rules, obedient, graceful, dress girly, feminine, always happy, not argue or make waves, wait your turn, only positive feelings, friendships conflict-free with no disagreements, popular, passive, not speak out or speak your mind, sweet before anything else, don’t stand out, make everyone happy, put other’s needs 1^st, be the kind of girl that all the parents & teachers like and that other girls want to be</li> </ul> <p>Girls also experience a lot of pressure and confusion from a myriad of mixed messages about how they should behave and live:<