IFS and Our Eating Parts: Getting to Know the Critic, the Perfectionist, the Doer, and the People Pleaser with Lia Schaefer

<p dir="ltr" style="text-align: center;" data-redactor-style-cache= "text-align: center;"><span data-redactor-span="true" data-redactor-style-cache="color: rgb(88, 70, 102);"><strong>I don't know about you, but I can be pretty hard on myself sometimes.</strong></span> </p> <p dir="ltr">From calling myself stupid when I drop something, to telling myself I'm an idiot for not knowing an obscure Jeopardy question, to berating my appearance when I don't look like  I "should," the self-deprecating comments can be never-ending.  </p> <p dir="ltr">And I used to think that there was nothing I could do about this.  I mean, I am an idiot sometimes--that's just a fact.  And I'm not as smart as other people so I <em>should</em> feel badly about myself, right?  And I don't look anything like the latest super model so I <em>should</em> feel unattractive.  </p> <p dir="ltr" style="text-align: center;" data-redactor-style-cache= "text-align: center;"><span data-redactor-span="true" data-redactor-style-cache="color: rgb(88, 70, 102);"><strong>I knew I didn't feel good when I talked to myself like this but oh well--I deserved it right?  I thought I was just telling myself the truth.  </strong></span></p> <p dir="ltr">But I wasn't.  I mean sure, I'm not the smartest most attractive person in the world, but I'm not nearly as bad as I told myself I was.  I didn't  deserve the slew of insults that I was so often throwing at myself.  I finally realized that when I started my training in IFS.   </p> <p dir="ltr">Thanks to IFS, I learned about parts.  And one of the parts that we talk about <em>a lot </em>is what we call the critical part, or the inner critic.  </p> <p dir="ltr" style="text-align: center;" data-redactor-style-cache= "text-align: center;"><span data-redactor-span="true" data-redactor-style-cache="color: rgb(88, 70, 102);"><strong>We all have at least one critical part.</strong></span></p> <p dir="ltr">Critical parts have learned the message that being hard on ourselves will motivate us to be better.  They tend to take a "t