Episode 85: Raising Capable Adults By Breaking The Cycle of Overparenting

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">My guest this week is</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Julie Lythcott-Haims the</span> <em><span style="font-weight: 400;">New York Times</span></em> <span style="font-weight: 400;">bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto</span> <a href= "https://bookshop.org/books/how-to-raise-an-adult-break-free-of-the-overparenting-trap-and-prepare-your-kid-for-success/9781250093639"> <em><span style="font-weight: 400;">How to Raise an Adult</span></em></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">. Julie believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her</span> <a href= "https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/speaking"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">TED Talk</span></a> <span style= "font-weight: 400;">on the subject has more than 5 million views, and in 2020 she became a regular contributor with CBS This Morning on parenting. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir</span> <a href= "https://bookshop.org/books/real-american-a-memoir/9781250296733"><em> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Real American</span></em></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. Her third book,</span> <a href= "https://bookshop.org/books/your-turn-how-to-be-an-adult/9781250137777"> <em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Your Turn: How to Be an Adult</span></em></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">, will be out in April 2021. Julie is a former corporate lawyer and Stanford dean who holds a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard, and an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts. Julie serves on several boards for organizations doing meaningful work in the world and is a mother of young adult children.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In this episode, Julie and I discuss the importance of breaking down the cycle of overparenting and how to work towards raising capable and self-competent adults. Julie introduces the audience to various parental behaviors suc