Episode 301: Why people don’t like it when you’re nice to them

<p>Why is it that your best efforts are often repaid with indifference, rejection, and contempt? This is a complicated phenomenon, but we can view one possible explanation through the lens of the balance of attraction. In turns out that people have preferences with respect both to the position they would rather occupy, and to the size of the gap they would like to experience. Being nice to others puts the other in the place of the adored and increases the gap of attraction. Negativity in response to this behavior is an attempt to recalibrate the gap back to acceptable limits.</p> <p>Social Media</p> <p>Facebook: <a href='https://facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622'>https://facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 </a></p> <p>LinkedIn: <a href='https://www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/'>https://www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ </a></p> <p>Instagram: <a href='https://instagram.com/psyc.hacks'>https://instagram.com/psyc.hacks </a></p> <p>Twitter: <a href='https://twitter.com/oriontaraban'>https://twitter.com/oriontaraban </a></p> <p>Website: <a href='https://oriontarabanpsyd.com'>https://oriontarabanpsyd.com </a></p> <p>Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: https://stellargre.com. GRE Bites: <a href='https://www.youtube.com/@grebites4993'>https://www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 </a></p> <p>Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: <a href='https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXw/join'>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXw/join </a></p> <p>Book a paid consultation: <a href='https://oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations'>https://oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations </a></p> <p>Sponsor an episode: <a href='https://oriontarabanpsyd.com/sponsor-an-episode'>https://oriontarabanpsyd.com/sponsor-an-episode </a></p> <p>Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewer