Episode 141: Setting Healthy Boundaries as an Act of Kindness with Randi Buckley

<span style='font-weight: 400;'>There are numerous definitions of boundaries. </span> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>One of them is that boundaries serve as expectation management. At its core, it’s quite simple: boundaries create an expectation for what I can expect from you and, conversely, what you can expect from me. </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>Healthy boundaries create healthy expectations and are truly essential for any kind of relationship—but people with high functioning anxiety really struggle with setting them for a number of reasons. </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>They think that people won’t like them.</span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>There might be conflict. </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>It might mean they hurt someone’s feelings.</span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>Ouch. </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>But when setting boundaries, any of the above</span> <em><span style='font-weight: 400;'>can</span></em> <span style='font-weight: 400;'>happen—but it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t follow through. In fact, boundaries are one way we can be both clear</span> <em><span style='font-weight: 400;'>and</span></em> <span style='font-weight: 400;'>kind with others. </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>If that feels counterintuitive to you, I recommend giving this episode a listen. Today, I’m discussing the importance of boundaries with Randi Buckley. </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>Randi is a leadership mentor, author, and podcaster who offers a different way of thinking for something more. She is also the creator of the group- and self-led programs,</span> <a href='https://www.randibuckley.com/healthy-boundaries-for-kind-people'><span style='font-weight: 400;'> Healthy Boundaries for Kind People</span></a><span style='font-weight: 400;'>,</span> <a href='https://www.randibuckley.com/the-deep'><span style='font-weight: 400;'>The Deep</span></a><span style='font-weight: 400;'>, and</span> <a href='