Episode 135: The Myth Of The "Right Way"

<span style='font-weight: 400;'>Today, we’re talking about doing things the “Right Way” and—surprise!—how there’s no such thing. </span> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>Unsurprisingly, many of my clients</span> <em><span style='font-weight: 400;'>live</span></em> <span style='font-weight: 400;'>for “doing it right.” </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>For them, there is nothing more amazing as hearing: Yes, you’re doing it right. In fact, one of the most popular phrases I hear from clients is: I did okay, right? They’re always looking for affirmation that they did it right. </span></p> <p><em><span style='font-weight: 400;'>So</span></em> <span style='font-weight: 400;'>why is the need to do things the “Right Way” such a common experience of people with High Functioning Anxiety?</span><em><span style='font-weight: 400;'> </span></em></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>Doing it right, following the rules, and being a good girl keeps us from criticism. And growing up—either in our family of origin or through school and church—we learned that following the rules earns us LOTS of praise. </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>Not only that, but it protects us from the anxiety of not knowing what to do next. It keeps us safe—at least that’s what we convince ourselves of. </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>What rules have you created for yourself? Let’s explore this together in this week’s episode and find out what we can do about it. </span></p> <p><strong>Listen to the full episode to hear:</strong></p> <ul> <li style='font-weight: 400;'><span style='font-weight: 400;'>Why there is no such thing as doing things the “right way” </span></li> <li style='font-weight: 400;'><span style='font-weight: 400;'>How the quest for doing things the “right way” leads to judging others</span></li> <li style='font-weight: 400;'><span style='font-weight: 400;'>What we miss out on when we constantly try to do things the “right way”</span></li> <li style='font-weight: 400;'><span style='font-weight: