Episode 122: How To Implement A.S.K. When There Aren't Enough Hours In The Day

<span style='font-weight: 400;'>For many years I believed that I could fix my High Functioning Anxiety </span> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>I thought that if only I could find the right way to do it, that if I just found the right hack, I could be healed. </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>But this isn’t how it works. The truth is that we will never be done with our High Functioning Anxiety.  There isn’t a hack that can fix everything. Yes, we can loosen its grip and live a life without it controlling everything but it takes work. </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>High Functioning Anxiety is an on-going issue and learning to live with it is a daily process. </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>In December we talked about the 3 characters that play in our minds – the</span> <a href='https://live-happier.com/episode-110-the-monger/'><span style='font-weight: 400;'>Monger</span></a> <span style='font-weight: 400;'>(inner critic),</span> <a href='https://live-happier.com/episode-111-the-bff/'><span style='font-weight: 400;'>the BFF</span></a> <span style='font-weight: 400;'>(the voice of false self-compassion), and</span> <a href='https://live-happier.com/episode-112the-biggest-fan/'><span style='font-weight: 400;'>the Biggest Fan</span></a> <span style='font-weight: 400;'>(the voice of kindness and wisdom) – and about how when we hear our Monger talking and berating us, or our BFF judging other people or sabotaging us, the goal is to bring in the voice of Biggest Fan. </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>All this month we have been talking about how to do that.  In the past 3 episodes, I introduced A.S.K. and talked about the 3 steps: Acknowledge your feelings, Slow Down and get into your body, and Kindly pull back and see the big picture. </span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>And as I have said before, A.S.K. is more nuanced than just doing these 3 steps.</span></p> <p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>So today I wanted to bring back Abby and hear how she im