EP158: Client Spotlight: Tricia—How an Enneagram 9 Can Use Their Voice and Step Into the Light

Enneagram 9s are motivated by the need to be in harmony with the world, and at their best, 9s bring people together and bring out the best in all of us. <br /><br />The downside to being a peacemaker is that 9s often silence their own voices to avoid conflict, which keeps them from building any real intimacy with anyone else.<br /><br />In addition to being an Enneagram 9, my client Tricia is also a single mom who wore the ability to lead her family with stoicism as a badge of honor. But what was it costing her? And how is she integrating her typing now to use her voice and step into the light?<br /><br />On this episode of The Leadership Formula, Tricia describes how she was staying busy so she didn’t have to feel, explaining why 9s shut down their own thoughts and feelings to keep the peace—to the detriment of their personal relationships and physical health.<br /><br />We explore why it’s crucial for parents (especially boy moms) to model emotional intelligence for their kids and what Enneagram 9s can do to course correct when they’re avoiding vulnerability.<br /><br />Listen in to understand how leaning into her 8 wing has helped Tricia find her voice personally and professionally, using her gifts as an adaptive peacemaker to support other women through the Starting Over Wealth Network!<br /> <br />What You Will Learn <br /> <br />Why we have to do our own inner work before we can help others<br />How Tricia was staying busy so she didn’t have to feel<br />How Enneagram 9s shut down their own thoughts and feelings to keep the peace to the detriment of their personal relationships<br />Why it’s crucial for parents to model emotional intelligence for their kids (especially boys)<br />Tricia’s AHA moment around the pros and cons of being a peacemaker<br />The physical consequences Tricia suffered from stuffing her own feelings<br />How leaning into her 8 wing helps Tricia use her voice<br />Why Tricia had avoided dating and what’s happened since she said YES to loving and being loved<br />How integrating what sh