EP 89: Stop Pleasing People with Laura

<p>This episode is about reassurance. Laura is a people pleaser. She goes above and beyond for people and doesn’t get it back in return. She then feels disappointed. I work with her on understanding why she people pleases, why it’s selfish to be a people pleaser, and how to shift out of the pattern.</p> <p>[For show notes go here: <a href= "http://christinehassler.com/episode89">Christinehassler.com/episode89</a>]</p> <p>You may have heard me say this many times before, but people pleasing is selfish. It’s really all about you. You are the one who doesn’t want to upset people, you want to avoid confrontation, and you are the one who is worried about how people perceive you.</p> <p>Laura knows how to be loving and giving; she just needs to direct it towards herself. Use this call as a catalyst to look at your own patterns without judgment, and without beating yourself up. The key to personal development is to work on yourself, without thinking anything is wrong with you. No one outside of you can give you the acceptance and love you need.</p> <p>And, to shift out of a pattern, we have to let go of things from our past. We have to come to peace with the fact that some people in our lives are never going to change. Many people don’t have the tools to change, or they don’t want to change. The older they get, the more their patterns are reinforced.</p> <p>If you feel like the black sheep of the family, or you don’t fit it, it’s ok. You may be the change maker and the lightworker. You may be the one who is willing to break generational patterns. You can love and accept your biological family but find your soul family.</p> <p>As Gandhi said, be the change you wish to see in the world.</p> <p><strong>Consider/Ask Yourself:</strong></p> <p>● Do you relate to being a people pleaser?</p> <p>● Can you acknowledge yourself for your accomplishments, but struggle acknowledging yourself for just who you are?</p> <p>● Do you feel like the black sheep of your family, and sometimes you are afraid to be who you are because you might