Ep 70. On self-esteem and ignoring signals with Chris Howard

<p>“My escape was to try and be good at things, for no other reasons than for people to like me… I was seeking validation.” Our next podcast guest is Chris Howard, a reluctant founder and somebody who prefers the term ‘creator’. Chris joins us to talk about how he started building a business to fix things in his life and to seek validation from others. As his marriage fell apart, he started to behave in ways that he now finds troubling, and was ultimately asked to leave the company by his co-founder and board.</p> <p>Chris talks about the signals he ignored; the difference between self-esteem and confidence; and where to look for help to start looking for the more deeply rooted causes that affect our self-esteem. He talks about how he has become academically obsessed with understanding trauma.</p> <p>We discuss the following:</p> <ul> <li>What does it take for somebody to be kicked out of the business they created?</li> <li>How do you feel when you’re being described as a wrecking ball?</li> <li>Self-esteem and confidence;</li> <li>Signals are there for a reason and how can we recognise and acknowledge them?</li> </ul> <p><strong>Show notes</strong></p> <p>Connect with Chris: <a href="http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamanoptimist"><u>LinkedIn</u></a> | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/iamanoptimist/?hl=en"><u>Instagram</u></a> | <a href="https://twitter.com/iamanoptimist"><u>Twitter</u></a> | <a href="http://www.iamanoptimist.com/"><u>Web</u></a></p> <p>Resources</p> <ul> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.co.uk/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748"><u>The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma</u></a> | Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.</li> <li><a href="https://www.wearetherattle.com/"><u>The Rattle</u></a></li> <li>Derren Brown</li> <li>Richard Wiseman</li> </ul> <p><strong>How can you support the podcast?</strong></p> <p>Tell your friends and share online.</p> <p>Subscribe &amp; review: Please make sure to review, share comments and subscribe to the show on the various pl