EP 429: How to Break the Cycle of Engaging with Narcissists with Behnaz

<p dir="ltr">This coaching call is about breaking the cycle of being in unhealthy relationships, specifically with emotionally unavailable or narcissistic people. Today’s caller, Behnaz, feels guilty, exhausted, and angry when dealing with her family and longs for deeper connections. She asks Christine for guidance on how to break the cycle and release her anger.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">[For show notes, go here: <a href= "http://christinehassler.com/episode429">Christinehassler.com/episode429</a>].</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">We all have encountered someone with either narcissism or at least narcissistic tendencies, emotional unavailability, and gaslighting. It can be a frustrating and maddening place to be. It almost makes us feel crazy because we feel we are not being heard, we are not being seen, and it is frustrating.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Why empaths are so attracted to narcissists is because, on a subconscious level, we see that they don't have access to love. We can feel it. We think our love will somehow awaken the love in them but it just doesn’t work that way. We just end up giving away our power, and our heart, and we end up collapsing our boundaries.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">It can be hard when we are a loving person, and we have a pattern of engaging with people who are not in touch with the love inside themselves. It’s exhausting.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">If you know you have been gaslit before, be aware that you may either shut down completely and not talk at all or go into over-talking and over-explaining. It’s not bad or wrong. It’s just a natural reaction to being gaslit. Part of healing from being gaslit is finding our authentic self-expression, not coming from justification or defending, knowing exactly what we need to say and how much we need to say.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">On some level, some of us do sign up to be generational pattern breakers. It’s the only way the consciousness of