EP 411: Should We Continue the Relationship After Infidelity? With Jade & Matthew — Part 4

<p dir="ltr">This coaching call is about honoring yourself and another person by completing an unhealthy dynamic. Jade & Matthew both join this couple’s session to ask Christine for guidance about where to go in their current relationship. If you are going through a relationship breakup or if it is time to end a relationship, this episode is valuable especially if there is wounding playing out in your relationship.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">[For show notes go here: <a href= "http://christinehassler.com/episode411">Christinehassler.com/episode411</a>].</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">One of the ways that we suffer most in relationship is thinking that our love will change someone. But, the opportunity to truly heal and step into their greatest potential is up to that person.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Oftentimes, coming together in relationship does help someone step into their fullest potential, but there’s a caveat: they have to do it. They have to want it and it has to happen quickly. If you’re in a relationship where it has been years of the other person going back to their old patterns, then you are in the cycle of them apologizing and feeling awful and you taking them back thinking things will be different. They are going to do their work and then something else happens but you see their little boy or little girl, and you love them, and this time was different and they’re really doing the work, and they’re seeing the counselor, but then they do it again. It’s just a loop. I encourage you to choose you, to love you. They need to do their healing on their own.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Making the choice to end, or complete, an unhealthy dynamic to heal individually is a gift we give to the other person. When we trust love and truth it always gets us to where we want to go.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Consider/Ask Yourself:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Are you an enabler or are you addicted to