EP 410: How to Be a Better Step Mom with Lorena

<p dir="ltr">This coaching call is about when our childhood wounding is triggered by a child. Lorena feels she has a parenting blind spot when it comes to her relationship with one of her stepchildren. She would like guidance on how to be a better stepmom and how to respond rather than react when she is triggered.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">[For show notes go here: <a href= "http://christinehassler.com/episode410">Christinehassler.com/episode410</a>]</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">There are different blessings that go along with being a stepparent. But, in general, parenting can be hard. You can love a child so much but still get frustrated and triggered and then feel guilty about it. Understanding that we are human and we get triggered goes a long way.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Parenting is a spiritual practice. For these little beings that choose us, either as parents or step-parents, we have a soul contract. And, relationships and parenting are some of the biggest ways we evolve as humans.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">With that said, we tend to reject people and behavior that reminds us of our wounded parts. We can have an ick factor towards it or them because we carry internal judgment and have self-protection mechanisms in place. It is much easier to love someone who doesn’t share the same wounding.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">When we are triggered, pausing and taking the time to regulate our nervous system allows us to be in the moment and respond to children, not from the viewpoint of our inner child, but as the adults we’ve become.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Consider/Ask Yourself:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Did you ever feel rejected or neglected as a child? Did you want more nurturing and love?</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Do you have a child or a stepchild that you just don’t connect to and it bothers you, and you feel guilty b