EP 383: Lean Into Love Even When You Feel Like You Want to Withdraw with Linet

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This episode is about a pattern of withdrawal and doing deep work when you are not resourced. Today’s caller, Linet, is a sleep-deprived new mother who finds it difficult to express her emotions with her partner. When her partner expresses his feelings she feels judged. Christine guides Linet through ways she can use her current situation to heal the pains of the past and lean into love.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[For show notes, go here:</span> <a href="http://christinehassler.com/episode383"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Christinehassler.com/episode383</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">]</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Oftentimes, when we are dealing with lower hormones, we can’t rely on biology. We need psychology and we need to use our heart. It is not the time to do deep work and bring up painful experiences from our past when we are sleep-deprived, hormonally challenged, or adjusting to major life changes.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you are currently under-resourced it is not the time to dig deep into core wounding. Doing so can reactivate the trauma because you don’t have enough resources to hold you through the process. But, it could be the time to break patterns and choose more into experiences you wish you had as a child.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When it comes to pattern breaks it takes a commitment. Whether you are finding a way for your child or your inner child we have got to find a way to break a pattern. Patterns are patterns for a reason and breaking a pattern is a choice.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If we keep doing the same thing we keep getting the same results.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><strong>Consider/Ask Yourself:</strong></p> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Do you have a pattern of withdrawing or related to the avoidant attachment style?</span></li> <li style=