EP 352: How to Have a Healthy Relationship with a Family Member Who Isn’t Doing the Work with Dominique

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This episode is about embodying the personal development work we do. Today’s caller, Dominique, would like to have a relationship with her sister. There is a lot of family history and many things have happened between them. She wants a closer relationship but her sister is not doing the work. We discuss ways she can not take things personally and how she can be the change she wants to see.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[For show notes, go here:</span> <a href="http://christinehassler.com/episode352"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Christinehassler.com/episode352</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">]</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When we are learning about ourselves and digging up old wounds, going back to the source is intense. Everything can feel amplified and we tend to be more sensitive to triggers, especially around our family. Personal development is not an overnight process and we need to look at triggers as opportunities for growth.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When we constantly want people to be different, we are constantly disappointed and triggered. We waste time and energy that we could be spending doing our own work. We create the possibility of people being different when we are different. When we are the change we want to see. It is the best advertisement for anyone to want a different relationship with us.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When we say yes to being any kind of facilitator, coach, or therapist any time we work with people’s emotions and their past, all of our stuff comes forward. We have to show up in a way that is embodied to help others. You can read all the books and read all the theories but until you do the work and embody it, how are you going to help people?</span></p> <p> </p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Mark October 7‒9, 2022 on your calendar as I am called to facilitate another Women’s Signature Retreat! It will be in Austin,