EP 343: Stop Working on Yourself So Hard and Start Having Fun with Vicky

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This episode is about giving yourself permission to have fun. Today’s caller, Vicky, hasn’t had fun in over a decade. She wants to but fears others will judge her for it. We work through what created the fear and how she can give herself a permission slip to express herself in joy without worrying about what others will think.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[For show notes, go here:</span> <a href="http://christinehassler.com/episode343"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Christinehassler.com/episode343</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">]</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Often, what we are projecting when we feel people are judging us is that we are judging ourselves. We need to challenge ourselves and say —  so what? —  if we are judged. What is the worst thing that can happen?</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">As a child, it can be scary. We can feel ostracized from school, we can feel like we are not getting our parents’ love but as adults, if someone judges us we can let it be OK. It is one of the great things about being an adult. We can handle judgment differently. We choose how we react.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If we do get devastated by someone else’s judgment, it means our inner child is being triggered. If that happens we have to parent our inner child and give them permission to have fun.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If it has been a week since you have had fun, it’s time to have some. We can’t be serious all the time, especially when there is so much stress, uncertainty, and heaviness. Fun, joy, and play are important. No matter how old we get, we cannot forget to play.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><strong>Consider/Ask Yourself:</strong></p> <ul> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Have you just been working on yourself but haven’t had fun in a long time?</span></li> <li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-le