Ep. 121: The Power of Showing Up

<p><a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.com/ep-121-the-power-of-showing-up" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Show notes & links available here.</a></p> <p>Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is one of my favorite people. She's a psychotherapist, founder and executive director of the <a href= "https://www.thecenterforconnection.org/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener noreferrer">Center for Connection</a> in Pasadena, California, and co-author with Dr. Daniel Siegel of four of my favorite books, including her most recent one (out on January 7, 2020):  <em><a href="https://www.tinabryson.com/posu" target= "_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become And How Their Brains Get Wired.</a></em></p> <p>Over the past several years, I've had the privilege of getting to know Tina not just as an amazing speaker and author but as a phenomenal person and friend. She even wrote the foreword for my book, <strong><em><a href= "https://sunshine-parenting.com/happy/">Happy Campers</a></em></strong>!</p> <p>In <em>The Power of Showing Up</em>, Tina and Dan share important research and findings about childhood attachment and how being present for our kids is so vital for their healthy development. This book is helpful not only for parents but also for adults who want to better understand how their own childhoods impact their adult relationships and how to change generational patterns of insecure attachment.</p> <h2>Big Ideas</h2> <ul> <li>One of the best predictors for how well kids turn out is that they have a secure attachment with at least one person.</li> <li>As discussed in the conclusion of the <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Whole-Brain-Child-Revolutionary-Strategies-Developing/dp/0553386697" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Whole Brain Child,</a> the most important thing a parent can do is to show up and really be present for their children, helping them build secure attachments.</li> <li>Showing up means offering a quality of presence. And it’s simple to provid