Dr Everett Worthington on promoting forgiveness in every willing heart, home and homeland (10#)

<p>2:12 - started as a nuclear engineer.</p><p>3:14 - Ev's mission is to do all I can to promote forgiveness in every willing heart, home and homeland.</p><p>4:16 - why is forgiveness so important to you?</p><p>6:01 - why is forgiveness so hard?</p><p>8:05 - what causes hurt.</p><p>9:28 - what is justice.</p><p>10:07 - both revenge and reconciliation is required for survival.</p><p>11:00 - the consequences of holding onto a grudge.</p><p>12:04 - spiritual consequences of holding onto grudges.</p><p>12:18 - mental health consequences of grudges.</p><p>13:33 - impact on physical health.</p><p>15:54 - does forgiveness let the other person off the hook?</p><p>16:30 - two types of forgiveness.</p><p>17:38 - you can forgive too early.</p><p>17:56 - you can both forgive and hold them accountable.</p><p>18:17 - the hardest thing Ev has forgiven.</p><p>18:43 - there are some things that I just don't think I can forgive.</p><p>19:10 - all events are forgivable.</p><p>19:18 - injustice gaps.</p><p>20:23 - forgiveness is not the only way to deal with injustice.</p><p>21:23 - REACH forgiveness model.</p><p>22:03 - R: Recall the hurt.</p><p>22:32 - E: Empathise.</p><p>23:32 - A: Altruistic gift. Forgiveness is not something anyone deserves.</p><p>24:11 - C: Commit</p><p>24:21 - H: Hold onto the commitment to forgive when I doubt.</p><p>24:51 - feeling angry doesn't mean you haven't forgiven.</p><p>25:46 - repeat offenders.</p><p>27:35 - Christian view on forgiveness.</p><p>28:16 - applying the empathy step of REACH.</p><p>29:46 - what to do when we're the offender.</p><p>30:31 - make it right with what you hold sacred.</p><p>30:51 - make it right with the person.</p><p>31:12 - CONFESS model for the offender.</p><p>31:26 - C: Confess without excuse.</p><p>31:47 - O: Offer an apology.</p><p>31:59 - N: Note the other person's pain.</p><p>32:09 - F: Forever value the person.</p><p>32:35 - E: Equalize.</p><p>32:46 - S: Say 'never again'.</p><p>32:58 - S: Seek forgiveness.</p><p>33:19 - make it right psychologically with yourself.</