Daily blog (audio): "I want doesn't get" ["I don't want to feel like this"]

<p>"I want doesn't get" ["I don't want to feel like this"]</p> <p><br> <br> We're on a mission to help one million people RISE by 2030 - join the movement at <a href="http://www.myrise.co.uk/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.myrise.co.uk</a></p> <p><br></p> <p>Who remembers saying this to a parent?</p> <p>“I want XYZ”</p> <p>And then receiving the reply “”I want” doesn’t get”?</p> <p>Meaning that you have to ask nicely rather than saying you want something and expecting others to sort it out for you.</p> <p>I take a slightly different tact with my kids.</p> <p>I just look at them and don’t say anything in such situations.</p> <p>After all, they’ve just made a statement – there’s no question for me to respond to.</p> <p>It took time, but it worked – for all their other challenges and frustrations, all four have immaculate manners.</p> <p>But, again, we’re guilty of doing the same.</p> <p>Or even worse, just stating what we don’t want.</p> <p>“I don’t want to feel like this”.</p> <p>Or “People shouldn’t ABC”.</p> <p>Or “I wish Name wouldn’t……”</p> <p>Again, without asking.</p> <p>Of others or of ourselves.</p> <p>If we ask others nicely to help us with something we’re struggling with……..</p> <p>We’re much more likely to get what we like than if we, essentially, complain about the current situation.</p> <p>Whether that be asking another half, friend or colleague not to keep offering us certain foods or drinks…….</p> <p>Rather than being annoyed when they do…….</p> <p>But still eating or drinking it.</p> <p>Or asking our coach (cough ** us ** cough) for some help rather than just going none responsive, telling ourselves “I know what I need to do, I just need to do it”, then not doing it and cancelling our DD in a few months.</p> <p>We all know “I want doesn’t get”.</p> <p>That asking for help is the best approach.</p> <p>Sometimes we just need to remember our own advice.</p> <p><br></p> <p>Much love,</p> <p>Jon ‘Really really wanna zig-a-zia-ah’ Hall</p>