Control - both a negative and a positive, you choose....

<ul> <li>Control is both a noun (the power to influence or direct people's behaviour or the course of events), and a verb (determine the behaviour or supervise the running of).....</li> <li>How "nice" people can control you..... sometimes without even consciously knowing that is what they are doing.<ul><li> <em>"I'm only raising this because I'm concerned about you".</em>... which for teenagers it MAY be OK, but for adults it is not appropriate and is a form of shaming and trying to control someone else in doing what YOU think they should do....</li></ul> </li> <li>Then there is COERCIVE Control..... which causes trauma for individuals..... and our body holds the impact of a trauma by holding the energy of the trauma.....<ul><li>Control is not WHO decides, but who decides who decides!  </li></ul> </li> <li>Control the controllable in our lives - fear is all around us, but much of it is outside our control.  By plugging into the "uncontrollable", it puts us in a place of helplessness, and even hopelessness, which leads to more cortisol being drip fed into our bodies.... not good! </li> </ul><ol> <li> <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDNXKWvfCtY">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDNXKWvfCtY</a>    Stop letting other people control your emotions</li> <li> <em>Accessing the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve:  self help exercises for anxiety, depression, trauma and autism</em> (Stanley Rosenberg)</li> <li> <em>Invisible Chains:  overcoming coercive control in your intimate relationship</em> (Lisa Aronsen Fontes PhD.)</li> <li> <em>See What you Made Me Do</em> (Jess Hill)</li> <li> <em>In An Unspoken Voice</em> (Peter A Levine)</li> <li> <em>Complex PTSD:  From Surviving to Thriving</em> (Pete Walker)</li> <li> <em>When The Body Says No:  The Cost of Hidden Stress</em> (Dr Gabor Mate)</li> </ol><p><br></p><p>To connect with Grace please visit </p><p>choosinggreater.com </p><p><br></p><p>To attend Grace’s Trauma Transformer weekly zooms please go to </p><p><br></p><p><a href="https://www.theunseenadvantag