Changing Why to What Can Positively Impact Your Life

Changing the Way You Frame a Question Can change your PerspectiveWhen negative things happen the first question many people ask is why? I want to suggest an alternative question that gets things moving away from the pain towards progress. 0:00 Good evening and welcome to my humble podcast abode. I am Cocoa Griot, a 50 something who loves to share ideas about life, love, and a host of other topics. You know I'm the owner of several bad habits. It's not easy to admit, but I have a collection of faux pas and missteps that could fill a U haul storage unit. As I get better, I like to give myself a little pat on the back, but I'm not quite there yet. One of the victories, I do want to celebrate this evening is changing questions from why to what. It took me a long time to master this one, even though I had compelling examples of the importance of doing so for years. 0:46 I remember one day after something negative happened, I asked why this happened to me? A friend looked at me and said blankly, why not you? You have to realize you're eligible too. After quietly cursing her out under my breath, I realized she was right. That made me ponder the correct questions to ask after something happened. that I didn't anticipate. When my husband was in high school, he and some friends went joy riding one night, they had a horrific accident. Most of the passengers were thrown from the vehicle. My husband was the only survivor. He did not spend his spare hours asking, Why am I the only survived? He asked God, what do you want me to do with my life? He felt he was left here for a reason. He lived in such a way to find out. Many people do experience survivor's guilt after such a tragic event, but his resilience persisted and helped him to see life in a positive light. Focusing on what, instead of why made him an action oriented person. 1:59 Another example of someone in my life that personified the question of what is my late godmother doctor, doctor, doctor, Moody. I called her that because she had three PhD's. When she was