Cancelling Comparison Culture with Amber Gordon

<p>Comparison is something that we’re all familiar with as a source of anxiety or envy. We’re told by self-help books, articles, and gurus to stop comparing ourselves to others to find happiness and fulfillment. But our inclination to compare is inevitable, and truly, comparison can be a useful tool when used as a catalyst instead of a trigger. So this week, I’m joined on the podcast by my good friend and co-coach Amber Gordon for a conversion all about reframing our perception of comparison.</p> <p>Like many of us, Amber had built her identity upon the external labels that she believed defined her. But after a years-long battle with chronic illness took away those labels, she had to re-examine all the relationships she held in life in order to create a new sense of self. In this episode, we discussed how to get clear on where we stand, how we relate to the things we’re working through, and how to use conscious comparison as a tool to dive into our own growth.</p> <p>While comparison is certainly something that can put us into a negative spiral, we truly have the control to decide how we want to use this information and interpret our feelings, to be the best support of our highest self. From this episode, you’ll rethink the role of comparison in your own life while recognizing this truth: you never have to be like anybody else.</p> <ul> <li>[1:37] Introduction to Amber Gordon, a Marriage and Family Therapist and my co-coach for the Ignite program</li> <li>[6:03] Amber’s journey with chronic illness that led her to rebuild her identity</li> <li>[9:30] Formulating our sense of self with comparison and relationships</li> <li>[14:40] Using comparison as a catalyst</li> <li>[19:56] Auditing the big relationships in your life, and getting clear on yourself and where you stand</li> <li>[26:41] Working in alignment with your energy to still be high-performing, even when healing</li> <li>[38:08] Understanding the relationship with your trauma, mental illness, chronic illness, or any other blocks you are working th