83. How to Parent a Strong-Willed Child

<blockquote> <p><em>"Could you share some parenting advise for raising my <span class="il">enneagram</span> <span class= "il">8</span> daughter? She is very headstrong and persistent, but has a complete disregard for rules and regularly challenges authority. As an <span class="il">enneagram</span> 5 (and people pleaser), I do not understand the way she thinks. We have gone around and around and I've tried to get to the heart is the issue. But it seems her bottom line is she is going to do whatever it takes to get what she wants. How do I help channel her perseverance and tenacity in a positive way? She is only <span class="il">8</span> years old. -a podcast listener"</em></p> </blockquote> <p>When I got this email in my inbox, I could relate so much -- because I remember being that 8-year-old girl with a very strong personality. And truth be told, I think "headstrong" and "persistent" are two words that can still describe me as a 38-year-old woman!</p> <p>Oftentimes, we hear people talk about their "strong-willed child" in a way that makes it seem so negative... as if a child's will needs to be broken and replaced. But that's like trying to strip someone of their God-given personality.</p> <p>I believe that the character qualities of persistence and determination can be such a gift -- to your home, to your community, and to the world. That's why I want to encourage you to stop trying to stifle a child's strong personality and instead embrace the strength that it can bring.</p> <p>In this episode, Jesse and I share encouragement for parents who are raising strong kids. I share from the perspective of being a strong kid growing up and we both share from the perspective of raising a child who has a very strong personality.</p> <h3><strong>In This Episode: </strong></h3> <p>[02:26] Why Snuggle Sacks have been a life-saver recently.</p> <p>[04:53] I came down with mastitis on Tuesday, so here's what's been saving my life.</p> <p>[07:59] My experience getting a Coronavirus test (Spoiler… it was negative!)</p> <p>[10:59