8 Mistakes Parents Make with Listening

<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><u><span style= "font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Show Notes</span></u></strong><span style= "font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">:</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style= "font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">If you want to remain an influence in your daughter’s life, avoid these 8 mistakes parents make in listening.</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><strong><u><span style= "font-size: 16.0pt; line-height: 115%;">8 Mistakes parents make when listening</span></u></strong><strong><u><span style= "font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">:</span></u></strong></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><strong><u><span style= "font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Stop giving me advice</span></u></strong><u><span style= "font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">!</span></u> <span style= "font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Just listen, mirror, and empathize without trying to reassure, fix, or problem-solve; when girls share they shift from their amygdala & emotional centers into their prefrontal cortex where reason can supplant emotion.</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><strong><u><span style= "font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Be fully present vs. distracted!</span></u></strong></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><strong><u><span style= "font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Don’t turn my venting around and make it about you!</span></u></strong></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><strong><u><span style= "font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Stop hailing on me!</span></u></strong> <span style= "font-size: 14.0pt; line-height: 115%;">The concept of the turtle, your teen, and the hailstorm, you, fits here. Teens often normally retreat a little into their shells due to their need for privacy and individuation. Parents often worry due to receiving less information from their teen, so they ‘hail’ more, i.e., ask more questions at the wrong time, which causes the turtle to retreat further into their shell, and so on. So stay calm, don’t hail, and the turtle has a responsibility to poke their heads out and share