78: How to Know if Leaving a Relationship is the Right Thing to Do with Anna

<p>This episode is about being conflicted when making a choice. Today’s caller, Anna, wants to leave her marriage but is unsure as to whether or not it is “the right thing to do.” [For show notes go here: <a href= "http://christinehassler.com/episode78">Christinehassler.com/episode78</a>] There is no right or wrong when it comes to ending anything. Giving up or getting out of something just because it’s hard or takes work is quitting, but opting out of something because it doesn’t align with your core values is a self-honoring choice. So, how do you know if you are quitting or giving up too early, versus when something has reached its expiration date? I believe any relationship takes work, and can be transformed, but sometimes it doesn’t serve either partner to stay together just because they made a commitment, if there is a drastic difference in values and vision. And, having guilt is useless. We feel guilty when we judge ourselves for doing something “bad or wrong,” and we think to suffer through the feeling of guilt somehow makes it better. If you are not married yet, my advice is to wait to marry until you are in a place where you are not looking for someone to fill a void or to meet a need, but rather someone to share your life with. Trusting ourselves is important. If you want to live in integrity, you have to have self-trust. You can learn ways to trust yourself in my <a href="http://christinehassler.com/innercircle">Inner Circle</a> private membership community. <em>Retreat Information — Bali is a place of healing. I have been visiting for 10 years, so my retreats offer an authentic Balinese experience, in addition to the retreat work. Enrollment is now open for the next</em> <a href= "http://christinehassler.com/events-workshops/"><em>Bali Retreat</em></a> <em>in September. If you have objections, but you really want to do it. Don’t let excuses stop you. Contact</em> <a href= "mailto:Jill@ChristineHassler.com"><em>Jill@ChristineHassler.com</em></a> <em>to sign up.</em> <strong>Consider/Ask Yourself:</str