73: Healing Our Inner Child feat. Tallia Deljou

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In this episode, we speak with life coach Tallia Deljou, as she talks about the art of “Inner child work” and “Internal Family Systems”. She focuses on how our childhood needs affect our adulthood, why we tend to blame ourselves for the way we feel, the impact of our parents to our childhood, and how we can cope and heal from the wounds of our inner child.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[5:31] Inner child work</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“For me, the inner child work is in understanding the needs that were never met, in those formative years, under the age of 10. When certain needs go unmet, we fill in the blank, and we create beliefs about ourselves.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[13:06] The formative stage</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I think the tricky part about the stories that we create when we’re younger, is that we often don’t have the ability to communicate our needs”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[24:22] Rewriting our story</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“…the shift into adulthood for me is where I realized ‘Okay, it’s now my job to fill this need’, ‘It’s now my job to be the parent to myself’, ‘It’s now my job to go inside and heal this wound’. That, I think, was the turning point.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[35:13] Reshaping our memory</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“Day to day, my work with this inner child part of me is to continuously validate my own feelings…So now I’m like the first to be with myself in those moments and say ‘Yeah, that feeling makes sense’.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[41:57] Parenting and Feedbacks</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">“I think it’s safe to assume that most parents, if not all parents, have an insecurity around the way they parented and if there is something they could have done better and if they did something wrong.”</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">[52: