288/ The unknown self-sabotage; Are you in survival mode? Stressed out? / Paula Rastrick

<p> </p> <p>If you want the Ace test for trauma just shoot me a message and ill get it to you </p> <p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/transformxruby/">https://www.instagram.com/transformxruby/</a> </p> <p>Resources</p> <p>Arielle schwartz - free videos &amp; youtubes</p> <p><a href="https://www.instagram.com/mrspaularastrick">https://www.instagram.com/mrspaularastrick</a></p> <p><a href="https://thebrainbodymethod.com/">https://thebrainbodymethod.com/</a></p> <p>Paula does EDMR online</p> <p>IFS </p> <p><br> Alot of women are in this high functioning state - trying to be everything do everything, please people, get everything right </p> <p>Set unrealistic standards </p> <p>Perfectionism</p> <p><br></p> <p>Repression - shut up and get on with it. </p> <p>Emotional regulation and how the body knows more than we are aware of</p> <p>We are too busy trying to do do do tick boxes we don&#39;t slow down to understand us </p> <p><br></p> <p><br></p> <p>We try to suppress vs understand</p> <p>To ignore vs regulate</p> <p><br></p> <p><br></p> <p><br></p> <p>I am an anxious person </p> <p>How can this show up in our day to day lives and impact our wellbeing &amp; quality of life</p> <p>How do you help women through it? </p> <p>Do you find that many women arent even aware of the state they are in because its become their normal? </p> <p><br></p> <p><br></p> <p><br></p> <p>Fight flight all day long</p> <p>Especially post lockdown</p> <p>So we are living in this survival mode</p> <p>Which is why we come up against sticking points in our journey and we don&#39;t know how to get back control so we try to control our bodies</p> <p>Our image</p> <p>We try to fit an image to feel like we belong and relatedness</p> <p><br></p> <p>Its safe to us for some reason</p> <p>So we sabotage ourselves wanting this body image that isnt the true end goal </p> <p>But we can control it and we can be busy, the need to do more be more</p> <p><br></p> <p>You say this is fear based distraction and so much more - </p> <p><br></p> <p>~~~</p> <p><br