265. How to Be Awesome At Identifying A Jerk VS Someone With Unresolved Issues

<p dir="ltr">Now this can get tricky because a lot of times the choices that people make now this can be tricky because there’s a very fine line here, but I think it is so important to spend time on. </p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">The whole reason that this podcast episode is absolutely essential is because we are making decisions all day long about the people we interact with and who we lead into our inner circle… and this is a very clear issue to me… But only very recently.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Since we know that it is absolutely crucial for us to protect our happy headspace and really try to give our energy to things that drive us forward and are aligned with our main life priorities. So having people in our lives that make us feel shitty about ourselves, or are constantly running us down or being inconsiderate and hurting our feelings… is not part of the program.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">This is one of those things that I’ve only just fully seen super clearly within the last few weeks. </p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">And I think it’s so crazy important because if you really take the time to think of it this way when you’re in different situation… you will absolutely make the best decisions when interacting with them and also how much interaction you should actually have with them. </p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">So let’s define our terms… What do we consider a jerk and what do we consider someone who hasn’t hasn’t worked through their own issues yet. </p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">JERK</p> <p dir="ltr">To me, a jerk is someone who puts themselves first- so they are a good friend when it works for them… Often times the conversation is 90% about them and 10% about you… Now not all of these examples will of course apply to every jerk… I’m just giving you examples… Jerks sometimes say mean things just to be mean… They don’t take accountability for their actions.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Often times if you l