229 // Applying Our Four Pillars: Connection, Being Present, Unconditional Love, & Healthy Boundaries

<p>229 // Applying Our Four Pillars: Connection, Being Present, Unconditional Love, &amp; Healthy Boundaries</p> <p>When we first started Find the Magic, we realized through research and experience that many of the strategies and ideas we found in books boiled down to four pillars: Connection, Being Present, Unconditional Love, &amp; Healthy Boundaries. We labeled these pillars because they figuratively hold up the loving, kind, respectful homes we are striving to cultivate. We have found that if you are seeing behavioral issues with children or a lack of peace within yourself, these pillars can serve to help you recalibrate. In this episode we discuss how to ACTUALLY apply and do these four pillars. </p> <p>Time Stamps</p> <p>10:00 - What are the Four Pillars?</p> <p>11:09 - When our kids openly disobey</p> <p>13:32 - The stories we tell ourselves are important and shape our responses</p> <p>16:08 - Wholehearted parenting leads to kids who honor their own and others emotions</p> <p>20:07 - How do you “make” a child do something?</p> <p>21:51 - Pillar #1: The importance of connection </p> <p>24:10 - Connect in the moment by acknowledging emotion and truly seeing them</p> <p>25:58 - Physical touch is a meaningful way to connect in the moment</p> <p>28:50 - Child Whisperer – type 3 energy</p> <p>32:10 - Preventative connection - acknowledging when kids are behaving well, holding hands, etc.</p> <p>33:22 - Caregiving tasks ARE connection times</p> <p>35:23 - Pillar # 2: Being present</p> <p>37:00 - Wholehearted attention some of the time is WAY better than half-hearted attention always</p> <p>38:20 - See the present moment as the main event rather than the precursor</p> <p>41:26 - In yoga the transition to the posture is the posture</p> <p>43:05 - Mantra for being present is “Here I am.”</p> <p>45:00 - A human need is to be witnessed</p> <p>47:27 - Pillar #3: Unconditional Love</p> <p>50:00 - What does love look like when I misbehave?</p> <p>54:07 - Pillar #4: Healthy Boundaries</p> <p>55:05 - Hold boundaries early<