22: The Enneagram and Parenting: How it helped shift my household for the better

This week is a tough one for me. This EnneaTalk Tuesday is all about parenting. I share a very vulnerable and difficult story, one that I referenced in a post this week that many of you asked about. I open up about a painful event that took place between my daughter and me, and how understanding the Enneagram helped diffuse the situation before it got worse. I discuss how understanding myself, how to use the Enneagram, and learning how my communication impacts my kids shifted everything in my household, and how it can help you shift everything in yours.<br /><br />Listen to this week’s episode to hear how the Enneagram enabled me to take a pause in a tense situation, discover why I am so passionate about the Enneagram, and how it can be the greatest tool in moving the needle in your home. <br /><br />Stopping generational trauma<br /> <br />For many of you, your biggest fear is hurting or messing up your kids—for me at least, it was. I discuss how terrified I was to pass on the same cycle I had experienced in childhood to my own kids, and how the moment I realized I was doing just that, I had to make a change. I share how the Enneagram was introduced to me, how I used it in my own home, and how the energy and compassion immediately grew in my family. <br /><br />I discuss the importance of being a leader, of showing up for your kids by first showing up for yourself, and how important it is to understand how you impact them when you are under stress. In order to fix your family in crisis, you must first understand the root of it—and take a deep dive into yourself to stop it from harming those around you. <br /><br />Understanding the energy in your house and how you create it<br /><br />I share an event that happened between my daughter and I, and how it impacted everyone in the home, shifting the energy entirely. I talk about the importance of letting your kids in— how they will know if something is wrong and how the uncertainty of having to guess is more damaging then telling the truth. <br /><br />If you are r