188. How To Be Awesome At Realizing You Can’t Make A Person Change

<div class=""> <div class=""><span class="" style= "font-family: Arial; font-size: small;">We’ve all had someone… or several people in our lives that we think… my gosh if they would just stop doing this… or start doing that… it would all change.  And that’s what they need… and then we try to change them. </span></div> <div class=""><span class="" style= "font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"> </span></div> <div class=""><span class="" style= "font-family: Arial; font-size: small;">We see it so clearly so often we do things like… </span></div> <div class=""><span class="" style= "font-family: Arial; font-size: small;">Offer them unsolicited tips and advice </span></div> <div class=""><span class="" style= "font-family: Arial; font-size: small;">Overly compliment them so they feel good </span></div> <div class=""><span class="" style= "font-family: Arial; font-size: small;">Or maybe you tough love them and really tell them brutally honestly what you think is best for them. </span></div> <div class=""><span class="" style= "font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"> </span></div> <div class=""><span class="" style= "font-family: Arial; font-size: small;">The problem is… even if you have the very best intentions, you can’t make someone do something, even if it’s for their own good because it requires intervening in their life in a way that often damages the relationship more than it helps. </span></div> <div class=""><span class="" style= "font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"> </span></div> <div class=""><span class="" style= "font-family: Arial; font-size: small;">We know that for a person to truly change, they must feel like the change is theirs.  They made the decision and they control it, that’s the only way it works. </span></div> <div class=""><span class="" style= "font-family: Arial; font-size: small;"> </span></div> <div class=""><span class="" style= "font-family: Arial; font-size: small;">In this episode we are talking about what you can do to inspire change instead of actively trying to change someone.</s