172 Being an Imperfect Ally…Even If You’re a Sensitive Soul with Erica Courdae

<div class="entry-content"> <p>Today, we’re joined by Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) Coach <a href= "https://www.ericacourdae.com/?utm_source=shownotes&utm_medium=unforgettablepod&utm_campaign=interview" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Erica Courdae</a> in a conversation that will make it easier for you to keep speaking up ~ <em>especially if you’re scared you’ll mess up</em>.</p> <p>This is to get us into imperfect action…even that thoughtful, caring side of ourselves that second-guesses what we share and just wants to say it the “right” way.</p> <p>What I learned from Erica:</p> <h3><strong>Being in conversation with people who don’t look, live or love the way that you do is essential for us to collectively get to a place where no one has to feel othered. </strong></h3> <p>Listen in.</p> <h4>Erica and I talk about:</h4> <ul> <li><strong>How to avoid going down the shame spiral of, “Oh no, I did that wrong!”</strong></li> <li>The ableist phrase I unconsciously used in our conversation…that’s common in the leadership community</li> <li><strong>Why what you watch on tv, the music you listen to, the brands you trust, and the experts you follow all affect your strength as an ally</strong></li> <li>Where Erica sees well-intentioned people mess up when using a DEI framework</li> <li><strong>How to discern when to speak up and when to pass the mic</strong></li> <li>Why the change is mostly NOT happening in the comments on Instagram or Facebook — and how to redirect your actions</li> <li><strong>When it’s okay to <em>rest</em> your voice</strong> </li> </ul> <h3>Deeper support from me:</h3> <ul> <li><strong><em>What’s your Messenger Archetype?</em></strong> <a href="http://adriadecorte.com/quiz" target="_blank" rel= "noreferrer noopener"><strong>Take the quiz</strong></a>.</li> <li>My <a href="http://adriadecorte.com/mastermind" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener"><strong>Messenger Mastermind</strong></a> is an intimate circle of up to 6 women coaches & leaders who want to feel solid, confident &