155: How to get your child to listen to you

<span style="background-color: transparent">Recently someone posted a question in one of my communities:</span> &nbsp; <span style="background-color: transparent">“Is it really so wrong to want my child to just LISTEN to me sometimes?  It seems like such a no-no in gentle parenting circles, and I’m worried that my child is growing up to be entitled and won’t know how to respect authority when they really HAVE to.”</span> &nbsp; <span style="background-color: transparent">Parent Chrystal gave such a beautiful and eloquent response to this question that I asked her to come back on the show (her first visit was </span><a style="background-color: transparent" href="https://yourparentingmojo.com/captivate-podcast/chrystal/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">last year</a><span style="background-color: transparent">) to talk us through how she approaches getting her (three!  spirited!) children to listen to her…and what tools she uses instead.</span> &nbsp; <span style="background-color: transparent">And this doesn’t end up creating entitled children who refuse to cooperate with any authority figure; in fact, her most spirited child was called a “conscientious and rule-abiding upstanding model student” by her teacher (which just about made Chrystal laugh out loud).</span> &nbsp; <span style="background-color: transparent">Chrystal has been on this respectful parenting journey for a while now, but I learned during this interview that she first interacted with me in the Setting Loving (&amp; Effective!) Limits workshop, where she started transforming a lot of the battles she was having with her children into a collaborative, cooperative relationship.</span> &nbsp; <span style="background-color: transparent">If you want to make your own transformation from a relationship where your child JUST DOESN’T LISTEN to one where you have mutual care and respect for each other’s needs, come join me in the Setting Loving (&amp; Effective) Limits Workshop!  Registration is open now, and for the first time yo