154: Authoritative isn’t the best Parenting “Style”

<i><span style="font-weight: 400">“On average, authoritative parents spanked just as much as the average of all other parents.  Undoubtedly, some parents can be authoritative without using spanking but we have no evidence that all or even most parents can achieve authoritative parenting without an occasional spank.” </span></i> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">I was fascinated by this statement, since authoritative parenting is the best style.  </span> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">We know it’s the best, right?</span> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">I mean, everyone says it is.  Including me.</span> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">And who was the co-author on this paper this statement comes from?  </span> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">None other than Dr. Diana Baumrind, creator of the Parenting Styles (although they weren’t called that then; they were originally called the </span><b>Models of Parental Control. </b><span style="font-weight: 400"> </span> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">Just to make sure we’re on the same page here, I’m going to say that again: Dr. Diana Baumrind, who created the parenting styles/model of parental control, says you can’t achieve the parenting style that has the ‘best’ outcomes for children </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400">without an occasional spank.</span></i> &nbsp; <span style="font-weight: 400">So in this episode we dig pretty deeply into what makes up the parenting styles, and what Dr. Baumrind and others found about the effectiveness of these styles, and what impacts they had on children.  (And I have to warn you now, the samples sizes we’re looking at to ‘prove’ that authoritative is the best parenting style are going to make your stomach churn.)</span> &nbsp; <b>FREE Setting Loving (&amp; Effective!) Limits workshop is getting underway</b> <span style="font-weight: 400">The Flex Path version of the Setting Limits workshop is getting underway!  </span> &nbsp; <span style="