125: Using the Enneagram for TRUE and Sustainable Healing so that you can live the life you desire

I learned at a young age that I couldn’t rely on the people I was meant to.⁣<br />⁣<br />⁣<br />Which is why I have operated like a lone wolf for most of my life.⁣<br />⁣<br />⁣<br />Listen now⁣<br />⁣<br />⁣<br />I’ve been pretty successful at this, but am missing out on a lot of joy.⁣<br />⁣<br />I also use a lot of my energetic resources doing things that aren’t naturally in my wheelhouse. This can energetically bankrupt me, meaning I’m not good for the people I care about the most or for myself.⁣<br />⁣<br />We see it all the time, everywhere: “All you need is self love & care.”⁣<br />⁣<br />I get this in theory. But if self care—like a spa day or hitting the golf course—was all it took to be successful, then shit, who wouldn’t do that?⁣<br />⁣<br />Here’s the problem & how the Enneagram can help.⁣<br />⁣<br />If, like me, you took a hit to the heart early on in your life, there can be underlying beliefs about self love and care and why you aren’t deserving of it. You have to heal from those scars before you can have true success.⁣<br />⁣<br />So, before you experience true self love and care, you might need to re-break your own heart first—like you would a broken arm—in order to heal and get to where you want to be. The Enneagram can help with this.⁣<br />⁣<br />⁣<br />Quotes:⁣<br />0:45 ⁣<br />A lot of the sh*t that we really take and apply, we had to learn through mistakes, bad decisions, the hard way, and by having a guide. ⁣<br />⁣<br />2:22 ⁣<br />If we just loved ourselves more we would make decisions based on that. ⁣<br />⁣<br />6:44 ⁣<br />Until you allow yourself to feel the things, you carry the belief of what love and care is into your life. ⁣<br />⁣<br />7:24 ⁣<br />Sometimes we have to go and rebreak our heart a little bit, so that it can heal properly, so that when we do say words like ‘self love’ and ‘self care,’ we know that it’s at its most beautiful state. ⁣<br />⁣<br />10:13 ⁣<br />When it feels like the pain is going to be too much, you have a road map to get back on your soul’s path. ⁣<b