052 How to Build Self Worth

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Growth can be hard. AF.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Facing the consequences of frustrating patterns can be daunting.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Not only that, it can feel like a giant mountain to climb. </span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Where to start? The sabotage? The mess-ups? The work required to be consistent and disciplined?</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">How on earth we do become better when I’m still tied to a bunch of shit I’ve been spinning in for a long time?</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In this work on becoming more of ourselves, in becoming better men, stronger men, more dependable men, more emotionally literate and nimble men we come across many blocks, avenues, tips, tools, techniques, strategies and seemingly magic-sounding potions.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In my experience, there is usually one thing that sits beneath all the shit we see and prevents us from even touching the strategies and tools - and that is a man’s relationship to himself.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Or, more specifically, his relationship to his self-worth; how he sees himself, and the beliefs he holds about his worth and worthiness.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you are running a story that exists somewhere in the vicinity of “I’m not good enough” such as “I am not worthy of love and belonging” “I don’t deserve happiness and ease in life” or “I am unlovable” then this story and the little offspring that suckle at its teet will fuck your entire life.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">This will be THE bed upon which all of the frustrating shit in your life lives, grows, and festers. If you want to change all the disappointing ways you show up in relationships - it’s not so much the communication techniques (although, they are extremely important), first it’s the belief you hold about yourself because that will determine how y