#027 - Control Freak? You may be a people pleaser. Here’s how to stop.

<div>If you're anything like me, you're always looking for areas of your life where you can improve.<br /> <br /> When you're a control freak like us high-achievers, you likely also have people pleasing behaviors. Today I'm breaking down how to know if you're a people pleaser and how to stop.<br /> <br /> A few years ago, I noticed a lot of people pleasing habits in myself. Not to say they haven’t been there my whole life, it’s just that I began noticing them. </div> <div> </div> <div>And once you've created these habits, it starts a whole chain of events that can be difficult to unravel. You may have created whole relationships in which you behave in certain ways, and now your partner or co-workers expect you to behave in that way. </div> <div> </div> <div>Unraveling these behaviors takes work, and you may think lawyers don’t have people pleasing problems because they’re tough as nails and don’t have feelings. At least that’s the stereotype non-lawyers like to talk about around me until they find out I’m a lawyer. Then they always say, “but you don’t seem like a lawyer. You’re so nice.” </div> <div> </div> <div>(Just wait until you see me in the courtroom, buddy.) </div> <div> </div> <div>It was actually annoying for me to see these people pleasing behaviors in myself because I thought, “Wow, I’m so accomplished in these areas in my life and yet I was completely oblivious to what was going on in my relationships with partners and family for years.”  </div> <div><br /> Here's what's helped me move through these people pleasing behaviors, and they'll help you too.<br /> <br /> Get info on how to get help from me working through these behaviors as well as a free affirmations PDF in the show notes here: <a class="autolinked" href= "https://www.dinacataldo.com/27" target="_blank" rel= "noopener noreferrer" data-behavior= "truncate">https://www.dinacataldo.com/27</a></div> <div> </div> <div>Affirmations (I also call them mantras) help build awareness around what's holding us back and help build the foundation to move