026 - Why you can't get your shit together (and how to)

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The realm of personal development has a few different worlds in it. One of those is the idea of just being better ‘ #liveyourbestlife - which tends to focus on just following your dreams and passions and being positive all the time.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Unfortunately, for many of us, this sets unrealistically high expectations and ultimately encourages by-passing of shit we actually need to learn, sit in, process, and move through. As a result, we often spin in feeling like a failure, beating ourselves up and trying hard to be overly positive despite shit potentially going as well as am arm being chopped off.</span></p> <p> </p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Closely related to this world is the idea - heavily favoured by men - of simply focusing on the strategy to move past what is frustrating us, the strategy to create new results and outcomes.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">The challenge and weakness with this are immense but often subtle; if we only focus on moving forward without understanding and being able to overcome what led to us being in the place we want to move beyond, we will tend to have short bursts of success until the underlying issues inevitably resurface.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Enter - YOUR SHIT. This is what is happening in both of these situations; we’re trying to ignore and avoid our shit.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Doing that only emboldens in to have a more insidious and frustrating hold over our lives.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Shit unaddressed and unmanaged will pull the strings.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">That is primarily a lot of my work with me; making sense of their shit, changing the relationship to it, owning it, moving past it, and overcoming it so that we get out from under its thumb and replace our thumb on its head.</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">That’s what this episode is about - why you struggle to ge