When Love Becomes the Way Back to Yourself

What happens when the person you learned to abandon in order to survive is yourself?Many of us learned early how to stay quiet, become useful, keep the peace, earn approval, and make ourselves smaller so other people would remain comfortable. Those adaptations may have helped us survive childhood, but they can follow us into our relationships, our faith, our work, and the way we understand our own worth.In this episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy sits down with international award-winning author, speaker, trauma-informed, faith-aware self-love coach, and relationship repair specialist Danielle Bernock.Danielle is a childhood trauma survivor who did not fully come into her own until her fifties. After publishing her memoir, Emerging With Wings, she transformed the story she was once afraid to tell into a body of work helping others move from survival into a life rooted in freedom, value, connection, and love.Together, Lisa and Danielle explore childhood emotional neglect, trauma that remains invisible, church hurt, spiritual bypassing, self-abandonment, relationship repair, and what it truly means to love yourself after years of performing for acceptance.They also discuss:How childhood trauma shapes adult identity and relationshipsWhy emotional neglect can be so difficult to recognizeWhat happens when pain is minimized or invalidatedHow to separate faith from the harm caused by religious institutionsWhy self-love can feel unsafe for trauma survivorsHow to tell your story without allowing trauma to become your entire identityWhy it is never too late to finally take up space in your own lifePerhaps healing does not begin when we finally become worthy of love.Perhaps it begins when we realize we were worthy all along.Host: Lisa Lacyhttps://www.lisalacy.comGuest: Danielle Bernockhttps://www.daniellebernock.comhttps://dani-daniellebernock-com.kit.com/de9e550f64https://dani-daniellebernock-com.kit.com/074c8b6335What did you perform in order to survive?Welcome to the edge.