EP333: Are You the Best Partner or Teammate You Can Be? Or Are You Tryin’ to Make Someone Be What YOU Want?

If you’ve experienced a personal transformation, it’s natural to want to share what you’ve learned with the people close to you. <br />That’s why I’m getting so many bookings for my <a href="https://www.tracyomalley.com/workwithme" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Enneagram partner session</a>. <br />But before you try to fix your partner, teammate, friend, spouse or child, ask yourself what you’re bringing to the table. <br />Are you taking responsibility for your part in any conflict? Are you bringing your best to the relationship? Or are you trying to change the other person to suit YOUR needs? <br />On this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, I explain why it’s more effective to embody the personal development work you’ve done versus trying to convince your partner to get on board. <br />I discuss how holding yourself accountable makes hard conversations easier and offer advice on moving through the grief when a relationship turns out to be a reason or a season—not a lifetime.<br />Listen in for insight on what it looks like to work with me in an Enneagram partner session and learn how to make your relationships more effective by owning your part in what’s not working. <br />What You Will Learn <br />The challenge around owning your part in a relationship that’s in conflict<br />Why it’s more effective to embody the work you’ve done vs. trying to fix your partner<br />3 questions to ask yourself before you try to change your spouse, child, teammate or friend<br />How taking responsibility for your role in a conflict makes hard conversations easier<br />How the Enneagram helps me see blind spots in my communication<br />My advice to people who are worried about outgrowing their partner<br />What it looks like to work with me in an Enneagram partner session<br />The beauty in 2 people working together to make their relationship more effective<br />How to move through the grief when a relationship is a reason or season (not a lifetime)<br />What to do when you catch yourself pointing the finger