Dear Krachel: What counts as a “deal breaker” in relationships?

<p>Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.</p> <p>If you squint a little, the theme of this month ended up being “deal breakers”—in friendships, at work, and in romantic relationships. We answered questions from:</p> <ul> <li>Haley, who’s feeling hurt that she’s the one who always initiates communication with her friends. <strong>How can she ask for more balance in her friendships (and is there a bigger red flag here)?</strong></li> <li>Worth More or Want More, who just hit the 6-month mark at her first “real” job. She’s BARELY breaking even after paying for rent, groceries, and bills, and wants to ask for a 5% raise when she hits her 1-year mark. <strong>Is this a crazy ask? And what should she do if they turn her down?</strong></li> <li>Claire, who was recently dating a guy who she didn’t align with on some important issues, one being that he’s homophobic and she’s queer. <strong>She wants to know what issues count as deal breakers in romantic relationships, and is it unreasonable to expect total agreement?</strong></li> </ul> <p><a href="https://clarityonfire.com/dealbreaker-relationships" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Leave a comment</a> after you’ve listened to share how our advice for these three listeners resonated with you!</p> <p>Want to submit a question for our August episode of Dear Krachel? <a href="http://clarityonfire.com/podcast-questions/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Fill out this form and you might hear us tackle your Q!</a></p> <p>LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT</p> <p><a href= "https://clarityonfire.com/negotiate-anything-devon-smiley/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">How to negotiate anything (even if you’re a people pleaser) with Devon Smiley (May 2019)</a></p> <p><a href= "https://clarityonfire.com/rejection-therapy-alex-grodnik/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">Rejection therapy with Alex Grodn