Daily blog (audio): We have a buffet of happiness [But only a menu of unhappiness]

<p>We have a buffet of happiness [But only a menu of unhappiness]</p> <p><br> <br> We're on a mission to help one million people RISE by 2030 - join the movement at <a href="http://www.myrise.co.uk/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">www.myrise.co.uk</a></p> <p><br></p> <p>The human brain is very good at seeking out and focusing on the negative.</p> <p>Served us well when we were cavemen and avoiding stuff that could kill us all day.</p> <p>Not so much nowadays.</p> <p>We naturally veer towards negativity and unhappiness……..</p> <p>Unless we train ourselves in the opposite direction.</p> <p>We feel that, for us to be happy, all these different things need to happen.</p> <p>Lots of things need to change.</p> <p>The planets need to align.</p> <p>A virtual buffet.</p> <p>But it only takes one thing to make us unhappy.</p> <p>One bad experience.</p> <p>One thing not going as we’d like.</p> <p>A single item.</p> <p>A menu, if you will.</p> <p>10 really hard things needed to make us happy.</p> <p>One really easy thing to make us sad.</p> <p>Or, from another angle, loads of things that could make us unhappy.</p> <p>Relatively few that could make us happy.</p> <p>Changing that, like any skill, takes practice.</p> <p>A concerted effort to change.</p> <p>Feeling somewhat forced to begin with.</p> <p>Becoming more natural over time.</p> <p>Some choose to frame this as “a lowering of standards”.</p> <p>But, if our expectations are consistently not being met and leading to our mood being less than it could be……..</p> <p>And, therefore, us showing up in the world as a lesser version of ourselves…….</p> <p>Then who benefits from those unrealistic expectations?</p> <p>Not us.</p> <p>Not those around us.</p> <p>Often our brain is guilty of taking for granted the good things in our life.</p> <p>The successes.</p> <p>The things that went exactly as planned.</p> <p>Pretty much forgetting them and moving on to the next thing immediately.</p> <p>Getting to the end of the day or week and struggling to remember anything that went well.</p>