159. Calm the chaos in toxic relationships and watch your anxiety and emotional distress disappear

<p dir="ltr">Are toxic relationships wreaking havoc on your hormones and causing anxiety?</p> <p dir="ltr">Did you know that mothers who spend all day with their children produce MORE cortisol (the stress hormone) than 98% of the worlds paying professions?</p> <p dir="ltr">Nothing puts me into a stressful state like managing conflict and tension.</p> <p dir="ltr">It boils down to a LACK OF RESPECT AND SHOWING LOVE.</p> <p><strong>The toxic relationships in my life have usually had a cocktail of these traits:</strong></p> <ol> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Sarcasm- relies heavily on tone and context making it prone to misinterpretation.  Our kids don’t always get this. Passive Aggressive (avoidance, sarcasm, subtle jabs, procrastination) </p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Bad communication- say what you mean and mean what you say</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Lack of honoring boundaries in time, money, priorities- none of us know what is happening in other’s lives.  </p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Emotional manipulation shows itself in</p> </li> </ol> <p dir="ltr">*****logic</p> <p dir="ltr">*****guilt trips </p> <p dir="ltr">****helplessness(playing the victim) </p> <p dir="ltr">****even flattery</p> <p dir="ltr">****threats</p> <p dir="ltr">****gas lighting (manipulation when someone subtly or intentionally distorts another’s perception of reality causing them to doubt their own memory, judgment, or sanity.</p> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">5.  Constant criticism</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>TO have healthy relationships:</strong></p> <ol> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Teach these words when they are happening</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Set boundaries</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Teach others how you need to be treated!</p> </li> <li dir=