Ep 182: How much should my friend risk giving up to fall in love?

<p dir="ltr">What advice would you give? Would you want? </p> <p dir="ltr"><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">The last two weeks while in Italy, I was swept away in the best romantic story.</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">A dear friend unexpectedly met someone while traveling internationally far from home and texted, “I might have met my husband.”</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">The wrinkle is that a life with him means a major fork in the road, leaving possibly forever things she’s loved, and for various reasons the decision is going to be made quickly.</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">When you have a major life decision, how can you be confident you won’t regret whatever you choose?</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong><br /> <br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Over hours of voice messages back and forth I reflected:</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong> </strong></p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">The advice I’m giving her is so much different than I would have 10 years ago.</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">What I learned from my IVF, surrogacy, and book journey that gave me wisdom.</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">What we really want to know, and are never going to. </p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to avoid self-shame/blame if it doesn’t work out.</p> </li> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">The biggest difference between taking risks in your teens/20’s vs your mid-30’s and beyond </p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr"><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">The questions I guided her through, I found myself asking myself in the very different scenarios I’m walking through personally today.</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">This is the grown-women’s approach to love and life choices that (thank goodness) has less draining drama and more delightful drama that makes life exciting yet